Jan 2, 2010

Day 23 – The Beck Diet Solution


Day 23 is called “Counter The Unfairness Syndrome”.

I admit I have suffered from this syndrome many times in my life.

“It’s not fair I can’t eat whatever I want.”

“It’s not fair I have to weigh and measure everything I eat.”

“It’s not fair I have to work so hard to lose weight.”

Etc. etc. ad nauseum.

Honestly, sometimes I make myself sick. In no other area of my life am I victim, but I do an excellent job of turning myself into one when it comes to weight loss.

Beck deals with this by telling us to use the tools we’ve learned so far, and in particular, the response cards. 

What is more important to me?

Eating that slice of chocolate cake or reaching my weight loss goals?

Whichever answer I choose, I have to live with it. There is no going back and being regretful if I feel I made the “wrong choice” later on. Make a choice, live with it, move on.

I think “Resentful Syndrome” goes hand in hand along with the Unfairness Syndrome.

There are times I resent how much work this is, I resent the amount of time it takes, I resent that it’s hard to keep at it.  When this hits me, I force myself to refocus. I force myself to remember why I’m doing this and that it’s my choice to be losing weight right now, no one held a gun to my head. If I don’t like this choice, make another, but whatever choice I make is mine alone.

In the last 10 months I’ve come a long way to combatting and beating both of these syndromes and I hope to eventually eradicate them from my life.

Until then, I have a response card to read every day to remind me BEFORE I fall into the clutches of these syndromes.

Reading my Day 1 response card is going to help  a lot with this one as well.

Day 23’s card (mine) says,

“I may feel like it’s unfair that I have to work so hard to lose weight.  It’s not easy for me.  I have decided to lose weight. That decision means I have to do some work, and I accept I won’t always like the work in the moment, but the results I see are worth it

Do you ever feel like this is unfair? If so, how do you fight that feeling so it doesn’t sabotage you?


  1. Strangely enough, this was one chapter I couldn't relate too. My frustration with weight loss is with myself for taking so darn long to do it! When I am really dieting (and not falling off and being dragged behind the wagon) I actually feel grateful. Grateful that I have the tools to lose the weight and reach my goal.

  2. I have had a lot of 'it's unfair' moments, but I think mine were more related to having things wrong with my body and trying to lose weight. Like, it's not fair that I have hypothyroidism and PCOS and that hinders my weight loss ability etc. But the same stuff still applies - it doesn't really matter if it's fair or not, it just means that if I want to be healthier I have to work a little harder.