Jun 28, 2010

Ch...ch...anges

Where to start?

A lot has happened in my life in the last two months and I am not really ready to share all of it yet, but would like to update you all on some of it as it does affect my weight loss/healthy lifestyle efforts.

I almost want to type out a list...but that seems trivial for the magnitude of the changes.

Ok, here goes. Pull up a chair, grab a cup of tea and hang on :)

Firstly, back in April my husband and I decided to seperate.  This was a mutual, completely amicable and civil decision on both our parts and made in the best interests of each other and our sons.  We worked out a plan and told our family and friends throughout May. Right now we are working on setting up our new lives and trying to plan new futures for all of us. Our primary concern is always our sons and their happiness and welfare and to minimize the stress for them during this time.

The plan, as it stands now, is that I will get an apartment and the boys will come to live with me as of September 1. Dennis will spend some time living at his parents house, to save money and then will get another apartment nearby so the boys can go back and forth as they like. They are both teenagers and we are not going to get into a custody battle at this point. We want them to know they are welcome in either of our homes and can choose where they want to live. Obviously, this is the biggest change in my life and has been an emotional roller coaster. Dennis and I still care for each other very much and as much as I am concerned for myself and Iain and Liam - I am also concerned for him and want to help him as much as possible.

This is a huge change in our lives. Dennis and I have been together almost 25 years and married for 22 of them. I was very young when I met him and he is my only adult relationship, thinking of a life without him is terrifying and exciting at the same time.

I started a new job today in the Corporate Division of the company I currently work for. It's closer to home and a little more money and more in line with the environment I am used to, so I am hoping this is another positive change in my life.  The other great thing about this location is that there is a gym on site, not a great gym...but one right in the building that has Aquafit classes 3x a week and my corporate health and wellness benefit pays for 75% of the fees so I would be silly not to take advantage of this....even if all I ever do is the Aquafit classes, it would be worth it.

Last week I bought a car :) This is exciting because I've never bought a car by myself or owned one in my own name only. It's a 1997 Honda Civic and I have named him Rocco. I know cars are traditionally given girls' names...but I like to buck tradition now and again ;)

In terms of my weight loss efforts I joined WW again two weeks ago with some other bloggers. More so for the accountability and structure than anything else.  My weight has been yo-yoing again over the last month since I hit my low of the 209.6 and I know it is mostly from lack of structure and discipline in my eating and exercise rather than from overeating, so I need to get a handle on that so I can do the best job I can taking care of me so I can be the best mom I can to my boys.

I am not sure how much I will be blogging - I seem completely consumed right now by so many other aspects of my life. I so much appreciate that you are all out there caring about me :) and I am stilll reading blogs when I can so you'll see comments from me now and again.

My email is in my profile, if any of you would like to keep in touch that way, you are more than welcome to do so.

12 comments:

  1. Wow, that is a lot of changes, Enz! You sound like you are in a good place and ready to move forward. Best of luck in all your new endeavors!

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  2. Enz - I have been very very bad lately with my blogging. When I saw your post I had to comment. What a huge change but my goodness I sense serenity from your post. So positive with all these huge changes -- just be good to yourself. HUGE HUGS!!!!!!

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  3. Really big changes - really big hugs - you'll be in my thoughts!

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  4. It was pretty obvious that there was something huge going on in your life that you weren't ready to share yet. Hugs Enz.

    I am glad you are working together to make sure your sons are in a good place. Great job!

    More hugs for you.

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  5. Good luck with all of that, Enz. Those are significant changes, and I commend your courage to make them.

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  6. That is a ton! You are learning your true strength...and that realization will not only get you through this, but propel you further than ever before.

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  7. Wow, that's a lot you have been going through this past months. I wish you all the luck in your new life and reading your plans/changes I'm sure you will.

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  8. Wow. Just wow.

    I just want to let you know that I am thinking of you.

    Slvid@hotmail.com if you want to keep in touch...

    (((hugs)))

    It sounds as though you and your husband have kept a really good head about things. Congrats to you both!

    XO

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  9. You know you're in my thoughts. xo!

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  10. Holy Shit Enz. That is huge. I really admire you for making this decision. So many people couldn't envision a new life for themselves after so many years with one person but you can. That's awesome. I'm sure it's been hard but it sounds like you two are really being human and compassionate in these very difficult moments. Bravo Enz.

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  11. Enz, I haven't been great at email lately, but I'll keep reading here and of coruse I watn to keep in touch. I'm sorry to hear about you and your husband. Even if it's mutual and amicable, it's still very hard to go through that kind of seperation. I can understand how it would be scary and exciting all at once, that seems like such a good description. Big hugs to you.

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  12. Wow-just caught up and am so proud of you for the way you are handling all the changes-you rock~

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