So here's the thing, I haven't dated since I was 17. That was a long time ago. I was married at 20 and I was married for 22 years. Now I've been separated for over 2.
I have lots of friends, male and female, and two great kids. I'm pretty much financially independent and stable and I have lots of hobbies to keep me busy but sometimes, I think it would be nice to have a partner again. To be in a relationship again. To have "someone" again. You know?
But...I don't know where or how to start. Get out and do things, right? Well the thing is, I am extremely introverted (INJF) and have a really hard time meeting people. The people closest to me are people I've known a very long time. I don't let go of friendships easily and I don't make new friends easily. I can come across as disinterested or aloof when really, it's just that I'm watching and listening and see how I fit in and learning as much as I can about the new people and dynamic.
When I hear women I know talk about dating - it seems really scary and intimidating. Although I'm not 17 anymore, my experiences with dating are with the lenses of a 17 year old.
I've been fortunate, my ex husband - let's call him D - (I still can't get used to saying the ex part) was an awesome man, a great father and just a really nice guy. The reasons we separated aren't important, but it wasn't because he was a prick or a bad guy. The relationships I had before him were with boys (I was 17 remember) and some of them were pricks and not nice guys and I was so lucky to meet D and be loved by him for such a long time. I was truly spoiled.
I'm not sure where this post is going, but as I find myself wanting to do more things - go running, go hiking, go to movies and concerts and sit at the waterfront - I'm finding I want someone to do these things with and I'm not sure how to get that into my life.